about a couple of weeks ago it hit me that all of our days run together. and setting aside that there are two little boys and a newborn, i noticed omar and i were tired. it was a tiredness that existed regardless of the kids. a little light bulb clicked on and i realized that during most weeks, we have nothing that even resembles a sabbath – a day of actual resting.
but if there is something i’m really good at it’s trying again (this sabbath post from a couple of years ago was round 2 in trying to figure out our family’s sabbath). i’m hoping this next week will be a reorienting one for me and omar. we’ve already started talking about what we want to do and not do on our sabbath. and for us, we have to figure out when our sabbath will be.
i’m rereading lynne baab’s sabbath keeping (highly recommend), and i pulled the sabbath edition of the christian reflection journal off the shelf. the interview with dorothy bass helped orient me to what the sabbath is on a large scale – it’s about much more than my own personal rest:
Let’s remember that six days of work are the counterpart to the sabbath. Work is good, for it allows us to take part in God’s own care of the world. Christians should be concerned about people who don’t have any work at all, as well as about those who are forced to work more than six days each week. Sabbath practice has justice implications, concerning the fact that many people have so little to say about the basic economic shape of their lives. We cannot allow ourselves to be smug if we’re privileged enough to be able to choose which day to take for rest. God calls us to help make the world a place where everyone can have good work and rest. p. 80
and the personal sabbath story (bowling on the sabbath) of a couple with three young kids made me less overwhelmed at the thought of setting aside a day of rest with little people who are a tad on the demanding side right now. at the end of their intro, right before they go on to describe their family sabbath practices, they offer this:
Please see us as real people with real children who have been known to scream throughout everything you’re about to read. p. 67
love it. this couple urges parents to see themselves as “priestly parents” rather than “sabbath cops.”
Priests, as spiritual authority figures and keepers of ritual, make things holy by blessing days and children. As priestly parents, our role is to say “Yes” to honoring the sabbath. If we fail to be priestly parents, we might become sabbath cops who merely patrol the house, saying “No” to things for being against the rules of the sabbath. Sabbath cops can create a quiet, joyless day with “no fun ‘aloud’.” p. 69
i’ll keep you posted…